It is all to easy to become lost; lost in one’s own thoughts, lost in one’s problems, in one’s own world, lost in a myriad of things. Being lost has become, as many see it, an insurmountable problem, like a derelict ship listing at sea with no hope of discovery or recovery. We can be left in a proverbial ‘Bermuda Triangle’, a temporal anomaly of lostness, not knowing how we got here or how we can get out of it. Or we may know exactly how we got lost but the end result is the same – no way out. Walking and talking in circles until we exhaust ourselves and give up.
There are many ways in which we become lost. We may take a wrong turn in life, or simply drift from situation to situation, environment to environment, paying little attention to what we are doing. It may be a conscious choice, or it may not. But we end up lost because we have missed something and we can’t find our way back. What then?
Being mindful of our thoughts and actions helps us to become more aware of where we are going and examining our intentions leaves us less likely to become lost in future, but if one is lost and floundering in rough seas with nothing to grab on to for support, it is best to stop flailing and just float. Wait. Think. Let the tide take you on a current that may lead to a solution, or a lull in whatever chaos or drama that may be going on. Like consciously choosing to be alone for a period, it is prudent to allow things to take a natural course as this may be the ONLY solution. Inaction may be the only action, but if the lostness is simply too much to bear, one is in need of a lighthouse. To the lost, the world seems like a vast, empty ocean. But if one looks up, there are stars to guide one if the night is clear, or the moon if it is on the wax.
But one can never stay lost is one truly wants to be found.
To the lost I say look for the light. What I mean by this is look to those who brighten your day, lighten your heart, make you laugh, make you smile. Move towards the sunlight. You do not always have to engage with others if you do not want to, but strive to do the things that make the centre of your being glow like the sun, and feel warm like a summer’s day. There are those who want to help you, to offer genuine help, from a place of goodness and compassion, not from a place of narcissism or possession. Should the hand (or paw) be offered, do not feel guilt or shame in taking it. It comes from a place of Universal Love and empathy for other beings. The door will never be closed upon you nor safe harbour denied. There will always be ports in a storm; you just have to reach out and take the rope that will bring you in from the tempest.
To those who have compassion for the lost – be the Welcoming Light. Be the light in the darkness for those who have fallen by the wayside. Many need and want help but are to afraid, to proud or too weary to ask for it. Many simply do not know how to ask. Have patience and compassion. Be the lighthouse that weathers the storms of their indecision and their inaccessibility for we cannot always know their stories and cannot know their hearts. To reach out and ask for help, for some, is a deeply difficult task. It is not for us to judge their reasons for not doing so. The lighthouse simply stands guard and watches, and casts light on the treacherous rocks below. We can give the warnings and shine the light. It is up to the vessel to heed it, and come towards it. The lighthouse, or the Welcoming Light, does not ask, or pry or question and so we must not. It must come from a place of neutrality no matter what has transpired in the past. It is the essence of true empathy, compassion and mercy.